Month: November 2021

Life sometimes gets in the way

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My apologies for being a stranger of late, but life sometimes gets in the the way. Lately, I have been feeling very disconnected from the world. I have spent this time reaching deep within myself trying to see beyond the veil in hope that I can gain a better understanding of what is real in this world and what is not. Breaking free from the 3d matrix is not an easy task and yet I feel more confident than ever it can be done. It’s a journey and I am grateful for this higher understanding as I am beginning to see clearly now and will return soon with a more enlightened perspective on many things.

In the mean time – I felt like sharing my ALL TIME favorite poem by Rudyard Kipling – Enjoy and much love and light to you all!

Blessings to you!

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
  Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
  But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
  Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
  And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
  If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
  And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
  Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
  And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
  And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
  And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
  To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
  Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
  Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
  If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
  With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
  And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

FORGIVENESS

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The word itself evokes numerous thoughts, feelings and often times a complete shutdown.

I understand firsthand what it means to forgive, but equally understand why some people simply cannot forgive something done to them or another close to them.

There is an invisible cloak wrapped around us all when we hang onto anger, this cloak serves to protect us, but can also smother us and keep us from reaching any type of inner peace/happiness.

I want to be very clear here, just because you forgive someone, doesn’t mean you have to forget or that you excuse the behavior that led to the action. Forgiveness is about YOU, not them. You must understand that forgiveness CAN happen even if others are unable to admit to any wrong doing. Again, it’s about your healing, not theirs. It’s about you taking back your power over you!

Forgiveness simply put, is the decision to let go of anger, resentment, and other thought forms such as sadness and confusion. These negative thoughts we associate with people or past situations in our lives can form such deep roots within, that often times we don’t even recognize that we are carrying them around, because we tend to associate them with everything going on externally and neglect to understand it really is something from within that manifests outward given enough time.

I had to take a good look in the mirror myself several years and ago and was faced with making the hard decisions about what I needed to change in my life in order to enjoy healthier relationships, feel less stress and anxiety, enjoy a body that wasn’t being beaten down all the time, and lastly, improve my overall outlook about life before all that negative energy swallowed me up – It was my ‘SNAP OUT OF IT’ moment and it was unimaginably humbling.

I had to learn that there was no way to move forward when I was being weighted down by the past. I had to convince myself that no matter what duty, responsibility, or obligation I felt toward others, I had to put myself first.

I had to give myself permission to detach from people who projected their negativity outward, because my loving heart always wanted to heal them and once I realized I could not save anyone but myself, this detachment became slightly easier. I will add that your perspective does change when you are no longer standing in an energy draining cesspool.

There are a number of ways one can begin this healing path to forgiveness and I encourage anyone who doesn’t feel able to manage this on their own, to seek out some type of support to help you navigate the emotions that will undoubtedly surface during the process.

I will share my personal experience though and say that in the beginning I had a good idea what my issues were, but I just wasn’t able to process them in a constructive way. I tried therapy for a little while, but ultimately it was my own curious nature that lead me to so many books, which I ferociously devoured one by one. No one book offered all the answers, but I was able to take bits and pieces from the many and incorporate the information into sustainable daily practices that worked for me.

In the end, it was journaling and meditation that provided the answers I needed to see further into myself.  By keeping a journal for several years – I was finally able to understand my patterns – I could go back and say WOW, I’d been doing this or thinking that for a long time and apparently it wasn’t serving me in a good way. Once I saw the cycles I was stuck in for so long, I was able to navigate my way out of the darkness and into the light.

No one ever said this process of forgiveness would be easy, because nothing worth doing is, but if you consciously want to be free from all the negativity, ill health, depression, anxiety, and low self worth associated with holding onto things that no longer serve you, then find your path to a more loving way of being – I can tell you first hand – IT’S WORTH IT!

Blessings to you!

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LOVE

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This post is about LOVE – I have learned to live my life in these challenging times by reminding myself daily of these four words; Love, Compassion, Gratitude, and Forgiveness – I actually wear a necklace that has these engraved on all four sides and whenever I am feeling out of sorts – I hold onto it and recite these words to myself. To my astonishment every time I do this – I feel immediately transported into my heart and everything else melts away.

Love is the invisible string that binds all consciousness together. Through love, everything can be manifested into being.

Throughout history the subject of love has endlessly been studied, written and philosophized about, because love is by far one of the most powerful emotions we as humans experience. It has the ability to create a positive and or equally negative response.  

In this post I will only focus on the positive, because once one goes down the path of negativity – well…simply put…it can lead you anywhere.

First, let us begin with the varied definitions of love out there. Merriam-Webster defines the essential meaning of love as “a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person” , “ strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties” and lastly, “affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.” I didn’t feel it necessary to include the references to sexual attraction here, as my personal views are that sex is more of an act born out of this very strong emotion and I personally view sex as more of an instinct; it is not always brought about by love.

The ancient Greeks placed love into six forms; friendly or platonic love, love of family, self love, divine love, unrequited love, and guest love.

The authors of romantic literature have broken out these six forms even further to include; consummate love, compassionate love, unrequited love, and infatuated love.

Canadian psychologist John Alan Lee created the Color Wheel Theory of Love. This theory breaks down love into three primary, three secondary and nine tertiary love styles and he used a traditional color wheel to represent this. This triangular theory of love suggests “intimacy, passion, and commitment” are the core components of love.

With such diversity involved in one four letter word, it is safe to say that love can be used to mean just about anything, always based on the complex feelings we as individuals assign to it.

For me, love is all of the above and infinitely more. Love is what I feel when the sun shines on my face. Love is what I feel when my dog runs toward me after romping in the freshly cut grass. Love is what I feel when I see a child who is happy and carefree. Love is what I feel when I write these blog posts.

Love for me is life itself!

Blessings to you!

Copyright©2021-The Splendor of it all

References:

Merriam-Webster. http://www.merriam-webster.com. Accessed 7 Nov. 2021.

Lee, John Alan. Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving. Toronto, Canada, New Press, 1973.

PAUSE, BREATH AND REGROUP

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This week has been a challenging one for me, as I have been putting my energies for the last couple of months into a possible new business venture and after much reflection and meditation, realized with everything in such flux right now – the best thing for me to do, is to hit the pause button.

Well, I’m not a pause button type of person! I’m a get things done right now kinda gal! I run circles around my family and have heard many times throughout my life that they are exhausted just watching me go go go from one thing to another. I am known by my family and friends as the Whirling Dervish.

I wouldn’t say that I was the neurotic type, but I do have a never ending list, you know that piece of paper that is crinkled and well worn because I cross 2 things off and then add five more, turn it over and continue onward. You may even know someone just like me!

This last 24 months has been mind numbing to say the least. I always thought of myself as a fairly down to earth person, who had finally learned to go with the ebb and flow of life, but recently I have realized that I may have been drifting out to sea – completely unbeknownst to me and now I can’t seem to settle my feet on solid ground.

The world is spinning so fast with no visible or rational charted course before us – So many variables, so much pain, anger, frustration, sadness, deception, and loss. I am having a very difficult time sorting through all the information and filtering out truth from make believe.

I suppose my point here is this; when all else fails and you cannot grab onto something tangible, pause and take several deep breaths – this will calm the mind and allow your heart to catch up – because only by coming back to your heart will the answers you seek, be answered. This allows you to reconsider all options open to you and allow you to make decisions based on what you truly want and not spontaneous choices from a place of elevated emotions – which can often lead us down an unwanted path.

Blessing to you!

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