Have you ever wondered what happened to those old friends, acquaintances, and even distant relatives that used to play such a huge role in your life during childhood, youth and adult hood?
I was thinking about this over the holiday season when I was going through holiday cards that I’ve collected throughout the past several years.
I generally tend to keep my holiday cards in a box. A pack rat’s mentality, I know, but as a crafty kind of gal – I’ve always found interesting and creative ways to utilize them. For instance I would clip out bits and pieces and create a collage art project, decoupage a box or even use them in my personal journal.
I always date the back of the cards when I get them, so I can remember when they were received because if I left that to my own chaotic brain aka filing cabinet, time would certainly get away from me.
Something about this year was very different from years past though. As I sifted through to prepare to send my cards out this year, I made a startling discovery – There were so many people in this pile that I no longer actually speak to or connect with in any way. It seems as if through the years the holiday card swapping had become more of a robotic ritual and that somewhere along the line, a disconnection had occurred.
I then turned to my little black book (no, nothing infamous here), just one that I have had for more years than I can recall…apparently forever adding to it, but never removing anything from it. Hmmmmm… I thought to myself as I slowly turned the pages. I of course knew the people in the book, but if I am being really honest here, will admit that many of the folks in the book inspired no emotional spark whatsoever. When did I release them from my consciousness? Obviously it was an organic self act, but I didn’t connect the dots until now.
That started a long conversation with myself about how people move in and out of our lives. I realized that many of these people contributed something to who I am today and I am certain that how I look at the world now from those shared experiences would have been quite different if they had been absent.
Taking this line of thought a bit deeper – I understand that this is how it’s meant to be. People come in and out of our lives when we most need that push to grow within. They tend to be mirrors of ourselves that we need to see in order to work through whatever it is we are meant to learn at that particular moment in time. This natural progression is amazing, once you can actually see it for what it is and not get lost in the emotional factors of those circumstances.
I have a new book now, the names are current and it’s no longer black. I wish love and light to all those from my past who shared their life energy with me and I release them.
Are there moments in your life that need to be released in order to firmly plant your feet in the present? Only through emotional release are we able to look at those emotions with an objective eye and keep what serves us and toss the rest for the universe to cleanse.
Blessings to you!
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