letting go – THE SPLENDOR OF IT ALL

MID-WEEK INSPIRATION #16

Published on May 25, 2022May 21, 2022 by KCLeave a comment

PEOPLE COME…PEOPLE GO…

Published on January 9, 2022January 9, 2022 by KCLeave a comment

Have you ever wondered what happened to those old friends, acquaintances, and even distant relatives that used to play such a huge role in your life during childhood, youth and adult hood?

I was thinking about this over the holiday season when I was going through holiday cards that I’ve collected throughout the past several years.

I generally tend to keep my holiday cards in a box. A pack rat’s mentality, I know, but as a crafty kind of gal – I’ve always found interesting and creative ways to utilize them. For instance I would clip out bits and pieces and create a collage art project, decoupage a box or even use them in my personal journal.

I always date the back of the cards when I get them, so I can remember when they were received because if I left that to my own chaotic brain aka filing cabinet, time would certainly get away from me.

Something about this year was very different from years past though. As I sifted through to prepare to send my cards out this year, I made a startling discovery – There were so many people in this pile that I no longer actually speak to or connect with in any way. It seems as if through the years the holiday card swapping had become more of a robotic ritual and that somewhere along the line, a disconnection had occurred.

I then turned to my little black book (no, nothing infamous here), just one that I have had for more years than I can recall…apparently forever adding to it, but never removing anything from it. Hmmmmm… I thought to myself as I slowly turned the pages. I of course knew the people in the book, but if I am being really honest here, will admit that many of the folks in the book inspired no emotional spark whatsoever. When did I release them from my consciousness? Obviously it was an organic self act, but I didn’t connect the dots until now.

That started a long conversation with myself about how people move in and out of our lives. I realized that many of these people contributed something to who I am today and I am certain that how I look at the world now from those shared experiences would have been quite different if they had been absent.

Taking this line of thought a bit deeper – I understand that this is how it’s meant to be. People come in and out of our lives when we most need that push to grow within. They tend to be mirrors of ourselves that we need to see in order to work through whatever it is we are meant to learn at that particular moment in time. This natural progression is amazing, once you can actually see it for what it is and not get lost in the emotional factors of those circumstances.

I have a new book now, the names are current and it’s no longer black. I wish love and light to all those from my past who shared their life energy with me and I release them.

Are there moments in your life that need to be released in order to firmly plant your feet in the present? Only through emotional release are we able to look at those emotions with an objective eye and keep what serves us and toss the rest for the universe to cleanse.

Blessings to you!

LET GO AND GET BACK TO BASICS

Published on December 19, 2021December 23, 2021 by KCLeave a comment

So, I have made quite a few BIG decisions in the past couple of weeks and probably the most shocking one is….Drum Roll Please…..

I have traded my super smart iPhone for a not so smart flip phone! Oh yes I did!

You’re probably saying “what a crazy lady!” Yah I know…However, If you have been reading my posts these past few months, you will have seen a post about what is happening to our kids who now have cell phones and spend all of their time with their faces glued to their screen and how that disconnect is actually taking us further and further away from the most important things in life!

For several months now I have been logging just how many times a day I picked up my smart phone and I’m ashamed to say that with all the gadgets and apps associated with that fancy phone the highest number was 127 times. That was in 16 hours. That equals 7.93 lifts an hour and I didn’t even burn any calories for it.

I had to stop myself and take a long deep breath and ask “what the hell was I doing that was so important to pick up that device 127 times?” The stone cold truth is NOTHING!

I found myself tripping around from Face book to the earthquake app then over to Pinterest. Then I would check my text messages, moving onto checking out all the news on Signal, Rumble, Telegram. I checked my astrological forecast every day to see what kind of a day I could expect (like that really makes any difference at all). I checked my fit bit to see how many more steps I needed before I hit my target goal for the day. I played a little backgammon with myself and won. I spent a few minutes stalking my grown son on FB messenger, and it seems that I did many of these activities several times a day, almost as if I was a pre-programmed robot.

Since giving up my iPhone – I have spent many quality hours with my elderly mother, I cook more wholesome meals. I have been outside everyday breathing in the fresh air and playing with my pup. The biggest difference and I feel the most important one, is that I feel less stressed, more connected to the earth and reality and I sleep better!

So…I challenge everyone to put down your phones and devices for one whole week! Try new things, breath more fresh air, soak in some sun, and let the folks in your life know that you love them with your undivided attention. See the difference for yourself!

Blessings to you!

FORGIVENESS

Published on November 14, 2021November 15, 2021 by KCLeave a comment

The word itself evokes numerous thoughts, feelings and often times a complete shutdown.

I understand firsthand what it means to forgive, but equally understand why some people simply cannot forgive something done to them or another close to them.

There is an invisible cloak wrapped around us all when we hang onto anger, this cloak serves to protect us, but can also smother us and keep us from reaching any type of inner peace/happiness.

I want to be very clear here, just because you forgive someone, doesn’t mean you have to forget or that you excuse the behavior that led to the action. Forgiveness is about YOU, not them. You must understand that forgiveness CAN happen even if others are unable to admit to any wrong doing. Again, it’s about your healing, not theirs. It’s about you taking back your power over you!

Forgiveness simply put, is the decision to let go of anger, resentment, and other thought forms such as sadness and confusion. These negative thoughts we associate with people or past situations in our lives can form such deep roots within, that often times we don’t even recognize that we are carrying them around, because we tend to associate them with everything going on externally and neglect to understand it really is something from within that manifests outward given enough time.

I had to take a good look in the mirror myself several years and ago and was faced with making the hard decisions about what I needed to change in my life in order to enjoy healthier relationships, feel less stress and anxiety, enjoy a body that wasn’t being beaten down all the time, and lastly, improve my overall outlook about life before all that negative energy swallowed me up – It was my ‘SNAP OUT OF IT’ moment and it was unimaginably humbling.

I had to learn that there was no way to move forward when I was being weighted down by the past. I had to convince myself that no matter what duty, responsibility, or obligation I felt toward others, I had to put myself first.

I had to give myself permission to detach from people who projected their negativity outward, because my loving heart always wanted to heal them and once I realized I could not save anyone but myself, this detachment became slightly easier. I will add that your perspective does change when you are no longer standing in an energy draining cesspool.

There are a number of ways one can begin this healing path to forgiveness and I encourage anyone who doesn’t feel able to manage this on their own, to seek out some type of support to help you navigate the emotions that will undoubtedly surface during the process.

I will share my personal experience though and say that in the beginning I had a good idea what my issues were, but I just wasn’t able to process them in a constructive way. I tried therapy for a little while, but ultimately it was my own curious nature that lead me to so many books, which I ferociously devoured one by one. No one book offered all the answers, but I was able to take bits and pieces from the many and incorporate the information into sustainable daily practices that worked for me.

In the end, it was journaling and meditation that provided the answers I needed to see further into myself. By keeping a journal for several years – I was finally able to understand my patterns – I could go back and say WOW, I’d been doing this or thinking that for a long time and apparently it wasn’t serving me in a good way. Once I saw the cycles I was stuck in for so long, I was able to navigate my way out of the darkness and into the light.

No one ever said this process of forgiveness would be easy, because nothing worth doing is, but if you consciously want to be free from all the negativity, ill health, depression, anxiety, and low self worth associated with holding onto things that no longer serve you, then find your path to a more loving way of being – I can tell you first hand – IT’S WORTH IT!

Blessings to you!